The Best Ship is Friendship!
Friends have a huge impact on our lives whether we know it or not. You have someone you’re able to confide in, laugh with, and create unforgettable memories with. And if you’re the only child like me, your friends instantly become your family. Maintaining a friendship may seem a lot easier than it sounds but you have to put the work in.
Here is what I think every great friendship should be mindful of:
Upliftment (is that even a word? Well it is now.)
Uplift your friend how you would want to be uplifted during your time of need. From a sad situation to a celebratory one, a friend deserves a little more than a one worded response. Let them know how proud you are of them or anything else they need to hear in that moment.
Accountability
Hold your friends accountable for not only how they treat you but how they treat others. When I feel as though one of my friends did something out of character, I’ll definitely let them know. When you speak up and say something it will bring your bond closer. If it doesn’t then some reevaluations need to be made!
Dumping
Dumping is the act of communicating with your friend when your going though something and dumping all of this information and emotional overload on them. Without even a “hello, how was your day?” kind of conversation before hand. Basically we haven’t did a check in or life update and you don’t know what I have going on prior to this dump. But this dump is all you want to talk about! A certified dumper is a friend that ONLY contacts you when they’re going through something. We all have our moments, our friends are our support system, but don’t abuse it. When you are NOT going through something, give your friends a call to see how they’re doing. This creates a healthy balance between the normal and the not so normal conversations you guys may have.
Another thing to be mindful of is the fact that relationships come and go but friendship is forever. Your friends were there before your relationship began and they will be there if it ends. Only giving your friends attention when you’re not in a relationship is a problem. Creating a healthy balance between your love/dating life and your friendships will go a long way!
What other things do you think friends should be mindful of? Let me know!